@Sapphie
Last group I ran ended in a couple horror stories - one guy creeping on our female player, and one guy being the epitome of “this kind of game
isn’t for you, stop trying to ‘look nerd-cool’ without actually wanting to play” that refused to give up until we removed him from the group - but that’s life in general; good comes with bad comes with good, and that’ll happen digitally as fast as it will in the meat. I’m not judging for preferring digital, to each their own, but as
@Barhandar said:
and ability to physically trottle someone who’s being excessively cheeky ingame
With digital, I can’t throw d6 at (or threaten facetiously with my solid d100) the asshat making terrible jokes/Carlos-grade puns (usually the bard or anybody playing a kender). We can’t bicker over who gets that especially loaded slice of pizza, whose turn it is to grab drinks, or who ate the last of an especially desired snack. There’s no reading of each others character sheets and seeing the doodles/notes/eraser marks/stains/
character that builds up on sheets of 8.5x11” printer paper (especially expanded, multi-page sheets printed one-sided with the blank sides being used for
god knows what). There’s no post-game cleanup with everybody pitching in together to reorient tables and chairs, break down/beat each other with pizza boxes, stack/shelve books, and look for the aforementioned tossed and lost d6, never to be seen again and consumed by the gods of chance (or the vacuum cleaner). No giving a friend a ride home/to work because they forget to tank up before coming over or because they failed to mention what they’ve been adding to
their bottle of soda. For lack of a better term, there’s no
community.
There’s a lot more to pen and paper games than the games themselves that just doesn’t translate to digital (can draw some parallels with “social media” in that respect). And this is coming from someone with
crippling social anxiety and agoraphobia. But, again, that’s from someone who has literally been playing/running in-person pen and paper games across multiple systems and editions since ~1996.
Obligatory study material:
The Gamers: Dorkness Rising
Dead Alwewives - D&D