Vent Thread

@coolmaster43232  
Battery might be dying.

@coolmaster43232  
How old is it?

@Acres  
wow that sucks. I always have to charge it within that time.
 
 
@Officer Hotpants  
I don’t know of the top of my head but it is one of those 3DS lite’s they had many years ago.

@coolmaster43232  
Probably what Acres said, then.

@Officer Hotpants  
Welp that really sucks.

@coolmaster43232  
You can get it replaced or just get another 3ds lite.
 
They will cost about the same

@Acres  
That seems like a good idea. I should find another at some point.

I just let my mom know I going to move away and instead of being understanding and helping me out she broke down, started screaming that I’m abandoning the family, and said if I go I’m no longer welcome back.
 
Great, either I stay and rot or leave and my only parent disowns me.  
I actually don’t know how to deal with this. I really don’t.  
Nothing has gone right since December.  
I’m about to give up

@Acres  
Fuck, dude. Is she always like that or did that come out of nowhere?

@Acres  
You have to go. What she’s doing, is trying to reverse parent-child relationship, and force you to attend to her needs. This is absolutely infantile and abusive. Look up Fear, Obligation, and Guilt - she is using the latter two, guilt-tripping you and manipulating you with the presumed obligation to “family”. Note that you’re an adult, and YOU ARE YOUR OWN FAMILY NOW. Parents are extended family. Parents are also adults and can take care of themselves, and if she failed to learn how to, that’s on her.  
Additionally, she already doesn’t support you like how a parent should, and your already present intention to leave means you can support yourself financially (and there’s us for emotional support, though not as good as personal one).
 
Be wary - she can and most likely will sabotage your attempts to leave, including faking emergencies not unlike covid hysteria in fact. If she pretends there’s an emergency, react like it’s a true emergency - call authorities. Most likely you’ll have to resist the urge to tell her various important things, like the date on which you’re moving out, because of aforementioned attempts to sabotage.  
It will be hard, because humans are hard-wired to trust their parents (or they’d be unable to survive first years of life), and it takes DECADES of abuse to break said instinct. But she is subverting it for her own ends, instead of raising an independent adult.
 
Most importantly, SECURE YOUR VITAL DOCUMENTS IMMEDIATELY. Birth certificate, SSD, ID, whatever documents you can access, move them to a secure place. If she hid them and refuses to give them, get copies. After those are secure, move your important belongings - money, mementos, keepsakes, your hardware, anything that is small and valuable and hence can be used to manipulate you and keep you lodged halfway inside her. Leave large and unimportant things, like furniture, for last.  
Also secure your money, and if you’re in USA, freeze your credit with all three agencies. Don’t share money with her - she will play on the perceived obligation to “pay the parents” to drain you of money. Remember: she is an adult. She can pay for herself. Anything you give your parents is not payment for a job they had to do anyway by instinct and by law, it’s a gift out of gratitude - and if she’s acting like that, there can be no gratitude.

@Acres  
Behaviour like that sounds like a good reason to move out.
 
I think Barhandar is right.

Yeah, that doesn’t sound like the type of person you want to be staying with.

@Officer Hotpants  
Ever since December she’s changed.
 
 
@Barhandar
 
@Fleur de Lis
 
@Anonymous #5DF6  
I don’t live with my mother, I live on my own. I was just letting her know that I’m moving away to another state. I should have made that clearer I guess. It hurts all the same though.

@Acres  
Oh goodie, then she can’t force you to stay.  

If it was sudden (i.e. you DO remember her behavior before that, and said behavior isn’t emotional manipulation like that), it might be a symptom of severe problems. Whether tumors, senility, or empty nest syndrome kicking in and degrading her emotionally to toddler levels, she needs it checked out.

@Acres  
Does the rest of the family live in the area? Or are you one of the only ones who do?

@Barhandar  
Nothing like that, I think she can’t handle losing another family member.
 
 
@Officer Hotpants  
We all live in the same area not 20 minutes apart. No other family member has ever moved away.

@Acres  
Ah. So it’s clan shit, then.

@Acres  
Her inability to handle something is her inability to handle something. You’re not obligated to set yourself on fire to keep her warm, moreso that, you know  
mail exists, and so do phones and internet

Derpibooru pisses me off.

 
The people making a fuss about voice actors don’t know anything about animation,do they?

@Dex Stewart  
They probably think Bart’s voiced by a white child.

@Officer Hotpants  
For the past thirty years,that kids a real talent.

I JUST washed all the forks and spoons and I open the drawer and mice have shit all over them.

@EverfreeEmergencies  
That’s fucked, I hate mice.

@ᏰᎯᎠᎻᎬᎯᏒᎿ  
Glue traps are a godsend. I caught three in one trap this morning (only babies, but still). Plus you don’t have to clean up mouse gore and you know when you’ve caught one because the mice don’t shut up.